In one of my previous posts I touched on what it is like to date a Movie Buff.
Lately I have been asked a lot about my dating life. Thankfully, not from my family and relatives. It's normally just random people asking me silly questions like: "Are you dating anyone?" and "Why aren't you married yet?"
I then politely tell them "Well... you can't rush art."
I would even sarcastically answer to the latter by saying, "I'll get married when my wife does." That way they can all keep their comments to a minimum or just not say anything that will make the conversation even MORE awkward.
So without further ado and in no particular order, I would like to share four movies that have helped my enjoy the single life in dating.
The Wedding Singer (1998)
Now I know that sometimes being single can be both tough and frustrating, but just remember in the end that all will work out!
I remember that I was much like Robbie Hart from The Wedding Singer, whenever I saw a lot of my friends in relationships or getting married and it wasn't happening to me.
At that time I was quoting Robbie Hart a lot. I even repeated in my head, "... I want them to be miserable, because that's how I am!" The song Love Stinks became my anthem for whenever my dating life was going sour. I even enjoyed listening to Somebody Kill Me by Adam Sandler.
To help me cope with this discomfort. I would remind myself what Robbie Hart and Julia Sullivan agreed that they both wanted to marry someone who they can picture growing old with.
So for the time being, I'll be waiting for the girl who I can picture growing old with.
(500)Days of Summer (2009)
This movie is chuck full of quotes that have helped me deal with blistering cold Summers and preparing to warm up to those rare Autumns. If you know hat I mean.
I, like Tom, have dealt with both. I feel that this movie is mirroring my current dating life. Much like what the narrator said at the beginning of the movie, "... you should know upfront, this [article] is not a love story."
I've run into a lot Summers. More than I can count. They start out all sweet and innocent, then they turn into heartless robots who want to take "... a giant [dump] on my face." Not literally of course... That's gross! But you get the idea.
The point I want to make with this, is that we all have our Cruel Summers, but there's always an Autumn just around the corner. So here's hoping for a sequel!
Scott Pilgrim vs. the World (2010)
This movie is basically my visual Bible for when it comes dating and relationships. I sometimes feel like each girl I try to date, I have to break the friendzone barrier by defeating all of her evil exes in order to be with her. At times I would fall short or the girl just had too much baggage for me to handle. At that point, I would question myself if the fight was even worth it.
After all that is said and done when determining the relationship, I'd much rather be a really good friend then somebody else's ex.
The Little Mermaid (1989)
I know that this movie isn't your typical dating movie, but there is one scene that really stands out to me. It is the scene with Grimsby and Eric talking about him taking the hand of princess back home. Eric wasn't interested of course. Grimsby made it clear that the entire kingdom wanted to make sure that he fell for the right girl. Eric then responds "She's out there somewhere. I just haven't found her yet." Grimsby discouragingly says what I've been hearing a lot on my end in the dating life, "Perhaps you haven't been looking hard enough." The next part what Eric says is what I love the most! He says:
"... When I find her, I'll know! Without a doubt! Bam! Hit me. Like lightning!"
I feel that's what it's like with every relationship. If you haven'y found the right girl. Don't worry. She's out there somewhere. This may sound cliche, but there are tons of fish in the sea! You may just have to wait for them to come to you. So again, don't fret. Lightning will strike!