Netflix's much anticipated revival of Gilmore Girls #AYearInTheLife has come and gone, and in many ways it left us with even more questions than the original series' finale. Many people loved it, many people didn't, and many of us were just left baffled. And nobody was more baffling than Rory Gilmore. Between forgetting her long-term boyfriend existed, sleeping with a wookie and having a sneaky affair with Logan, fans were left wondering what on earth happened to Rory Gilmore.
However, it's worth noting that Gilmore Girls: A Year In The Life is not the first time we have seen Rory make some questionable decisions — she did make her fair share in the original #TV series. Of course, mistakes are part of growing up so its understandable that we overlooked these scenarios during our first viewing of the show. Or perhaps the revival has just built upon who Rory always was, making us question if she ever truly grew up? Let's take a look back at some of Rory's questionable moments in the original Gilmore Girls series and decided if A Year In The Life only highlighted who she always was.
The "I Love You" Debacle
When they first started dating, Rory and Dean were on cloud nine. They were practically inseparable, recommending books to each other, going out with each other and Dean even came over for movie nights with Lorelai and Rory. Simply put, they were the perfect young couple.
But when Dean admitted that he loved her, things changed. As the sheltered Rory was understandably shook by the revelation, Dean took it to mean that she didn't feel the same way, and they subsequently broke up. Young love is complicated, so this was an understandable consequence.
However, as Rory completely shut off while she contemplated her feelings, the whole town of Stars Hollow turned against Dean. While this was also an understandable consequence — after all, Rory was Stars Hollow's favorite daughter — what wasn't understandable was that Rory did absolutely nothing to fix this. Instead, she let the boy who loved her be outcast by the town and even banned from Luke's Diner without saying a word in his defense. While Dean's words may have frightened her, he didn't deserve the treatment he got from Stars Hollow or from Rory.
Kissing Jess While Still With Dean
While spending all of Season 2 happily reunited with Dean, Rory eventually found herself unable to stop thinking about Luke's bad boy nephew Jess Mariano. Despite him being rude to practically the entire town and purposely causing trouble with Dean, Rory still couldn't shake the feelings that were brewing.
After Jess left Stars Hollow and moved to New York City, Rory followed along and the two spent the day together before parting ways for what she thought was forever. And while she was away, Dean turned up on Lorelai's doorstep, understandably upset that he was losing her. Things accelerated further when Jess returned to Stars Hollow and Rory planted a kiss on him that Dean never found out about. Again, things happen in the heat of the moment, so this isn't an unforgivable act either.
However, while we can't blame Rory for having feelings for Jess — it happens in life — she remained in denial and constantly held onto Dean. In fact, after the Season 2 finale kiss, she remained with her loyal boyfriend for a vast portion of Season 3 when it was he who finally snapped and broke up with her. Although doing it in public was humiliating and harsh, it was the boiling point for a wounded Dean.
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Missing Lorelai's Graduation
When Jess ran off to New York City, Rory made it her mission to track him down — and did so rather expertly. However, at the same time, her mother Lorelai was graduating from her business class — the same business class she had been talking about since the show began. So to say that it meant a lot to Lorelai would be an understatement. But Rory's venture ended up causing her to miss her Mom's graduation.
Granted, Rory was young here, thus it's possible to overlook her mistakes, especially as she was so confused with her feelings towards Jess. But she knew it was the day of her mom's graduation and still went. If she knew Jess was in New York, couldn't she have just left it to the next day?
The Other Woman #1
Rory and Dean's brief affair in Season 4 was a turning point for the show, and it also ended up turning a lot of people against both of them. However, Dean got the brunt of the hate as he was married to Lindsay at the time. And rightly so, there's no way to justify a man cheating on his wife. It's wrong. However, Rory was in the wrong here too as Lorelai reminded her.
This is definitely the most incriminating one on the list, and not just because of the act itself. The fact that Rory willingly becomes "the other woman" 11 years later in Gilmore Girls: A Year In The Life highlights a severe lack of character development and perhaps insinuates that she hasn't grown up at all.
Letting Dean Go, Without A Fight
The whole basis of Gilmore Girls was how Lorelai brought Rory up away from her rich parents, spoiling her with the humble world of Stars Hollow instead. However, Season 5 was a turning point for Rory as she began to embrace the life that her mother repelled. And in doing so, she left Dean waiting outside her grandparents' house while she partied a little longer with Logan.
Seeing Rory come out looking like a princess with her college buddies had Dean thinking that he didn't belong anymore — and whether you agree with him or not, she allowed him to walk off, thinking less of himself. And this was only the beginning of a less considerate Rory.
Leaving Lorelai And Moving In With Emily & Richard
In both Season 4 and Season 6, Rory took part in unpardonable acts — the affair with Dean and getting arrested. However, instead of dealing with said actions, she decided to punish Lorelai, firstly by vacationing with her grandparents — with she always wanted to do with her mother — and the second time, she moved in with them. Rory willingly turned to her grandparents twice, knowing that her actions would hurt Lorelai. And although they made up both times and forgot all about it, it doesn't change the fact that she turned against her mother instead of facing up to her problems.
As a massive Gilmore Girls and Rory fan, I hated even considering the fact that our beloved Rory was always a flawed character. Granted, she was young, but it begs the question — has she really grown up at all? Since these events Rory has inexplicably slept with a wookie, turned up to a job interview unprepared and willingly became the "other woman" for the second time in her life as she had an affair with Logan and continuously forgot that her boyfriend even existed. So despite the criticism, did Gilmore Girls: A Year In The Life assassinate Rory's character, or did it simply highlight the person who she always was?